Don’t judge me

Photo by shattered.art66
Photo by shattered.art66

It is so easy to judge what we do not understand or accept, that sometimes I feel people are doing it without realising.

I never asked for fibromyalgia, depression and anxiety, PTSD and the whole lot of it.

But I feel  judged (feel being a key word as I know some of it is unintentional), as I’ve fallen in and out of crises, particularly on the basis of mental health.

I hear that ‘nobody wants to know they are going out with someone with a mental health condition’ or the implication that prospective employers might find out and my career prospects could be jeopardised.

Society is still very prejudicial, I get it. There is still alot of stigma, I know that.

But being told these things is really not on.

It hurts actually.

I feel like I’m being judged for something I didn’t choose. Pain I didn’t choose. Traumas that I didn’t choose but have anyway burdened me with causal mental effects.

If I could choose, I wouldn’t choose pain, no one would, whether it’s the kind of pain you see or you can’t see.

We do not judge people for getting cancers and tumours and other diseases we are more familiar with.

Don’t judge someone for living with an invisible illness or a mental health condition. It is not a choice.

I always like to return to an all time favourite quote from my favourite book To Kill a Mockingbird.

You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” 

Gentle hugs 🙂

6 Replies to “Don’t judge me”

    1. Thanks my dear. It’s really encouraging to get your feedback because this kind of hurt really isolates us especially when people we love do it unintentionally or not. Thanks for your wonderful feedback:) cheers! x

  1. We humans are constantly judging things. We judge the car you drive, how loud your music is, what cloths your wearing, what makeup/tattoos you have, your hair style/color, what jewelry your wearing, your mannerisms, etc. Many of these judgments occur unconsciously and we never even realize we are doing it. But when something falls out of our normal expectations then it becomes conscious. It’s only through repeated exposure and education that something perceived abnormal will fall into the unconscious normal area. But even then, your still always being judged, it’s just the result of the judging is more to your liking.

    1. Interesting and valid comment Sally – thanks for taking the time. I suppose we don’t consider the ‘positive’ judgements as judging although they still qualify as such. I suppose it is hard to get away from it or to abstain from doing it. It is true, we are all guilty of doing it, even unconsciously.

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